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Independence: Letting our child to make their own decisions

Yesterday I was feeling a little defeated, thinking that despite all the effort I've put in over the past few months, there were still friendship challenges.


But then, I noticed the little seeds I planted starting to bloom. fo actually took into account what I shared with her and used her own judgment. Inside, I was like, "Wow.."


Here is the whole story:


I got 👧🏻 a watch for her running practice, and she's been wearing it day and night, even to camp. As you might have guessed, her friend wanted to borrow it.


🫣I knew there was a chance this might happen, but I decided to step back and let handle it on her own, instead of telling her not to wear it to camp. I don't want to tell her what she has to do; I'd rather she learns how to think and knows I'm here to support her.


Her friend wanted to borrow her watch, and lent it to her. But when got home, she wasn't happy about it and whined a bit. All these still happened. BUT...


..then she explained her reasoning to me.


"It's not a special gift."

"If she breaks it, I'll be sad, but I can live without a watch."


I don't completely agree with her reasoning.. the watch was a gift from me to her but I love that she's thinking things through.


There's still more work to do... I wanted to tell her that mommy works hard to buy you these little gadgets👌🏻


But that's for another day ✌🏻


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